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Should I use my friend as my realtor?
I have a good friend that's a realtor. I really like her as a friend, but I'm worried about working with her. I think it could change our dynamic and might ruin the friendship. That said, I also think if I choose a different realtor, she could be so hurt that it ruins the friendship. What should I do?
Asked By Maggie | Madison, WI | 651 views | Buying | 6 months ago
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Julianne Clark | Your Lowcountry Compass
Charter One Realty
Both are valid concerns. They may do an extra excellent job for you or the exact opposite. They could give you a reduction in cost or the exact opposite. Talk to them and express your concerns. It could be perceived that you do not "trust" them enough to help with something as important as your home sale. The other thing to keep in mind is the amount of experience the agent has.
- 6 months ago
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Raquel Penas Fernandez
RE eBroker Group
Friends and business is a delicate situation. I truly would interview 3 realtors, your friend included, and see how competent they all are. A professional realtor will have your best interest at their first priority and if that happens to be your friend even better because they will go the extra mile for you.
- 3 months ago
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Anna Wiseman
RE/MAX Lifestyle
Real estate is one of the biggest investments in your life. I would make sure the Realtor you choose in successful and competent. If that happens to be your friend that's great! If not, choose someone else.
- 2 months ago
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This is one of those situations where honest communication is your best friend - literally! 🙂
Here's what I'd suggest:
Have an upfront conversation with your friend. Be genuine about your concerns. You might say something like: "I really value our friendship, and I want to make sure we handle this in a way that protects that above all else. What are your thoughts on mixing business with our personal relationship?"
Consider these key factors:
Does she specialize in your area and property type?
How does she handle stress and potential conflicts?
Are you both comfortable with the business side potentially affecting your friendship?
Can you both commit to keeping friendship and business separate?
Alternative approaches:
She could refer you to a trusted colleague while still being involved as your "advisor"
You could work together with clear boundaries and expectations set upfront
You might choose someone else but involve her in the process so she doesn't feel excluded
The reality is: Good realtors understand that not every friend should be their client, and good friends understand that business decisions aren't personal rejections.
Whatever you decide, approach it with transparency. A true friendship can handle an honest conversation about what's best for everyone involved."
What aspects of this situation do you think would be most important for someone to consider when making this decision?
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Here's what I'd suggest:
Have an upfront conversation with your friend. Be genuine about your concerns. You might say something like: "I really value our friendship, and I want to make sure we handle this in a way that protects that above all else. What are your thoughts on mixing business with our personal relationship?"
Consider these key factors:
Does she specialize in your area and property type?
How does she handle stress and potential conflicts?
Are you both comfortable with the business side potentially affecting your friendship?
Can you both commit to keeping friendship and business separate?
Alternative approaches:
She could refer you to a trusted colleague while still being involved as your "advisor"
You could work together with clear boundaries and expectations set upfront
You might choose someone else but involve her in the process so she doesn't feel excluded
The reality is: Good realtors understand that not every friend should be their client, and good friends understand that business decisions aren't personal rejections.
Whatever you decide, approach it with transparency. A true friendship can handle an honest conversation about what's best for everyone involved."
What aspects of this situation do you think would be most important for someone to consider when making this decision?
Send a message
- 2 months ago
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Chaimae Yaagoubi
Keller Williams Wellington
This is a common concern, and it really depends on your comfort level and how your friend handles business. A strong professional can separate friendship from the transaction and treat you like any other client—with clear communication, boundaries, and expectations. That said, if you feel it could create stress or tension, it’s okay to set that boundary. Real friends should understand that buying or selling a home is a major decision, and you have to do what feels right for you. Honest, respectful communication is key either way. Best of luck with your home purchase!
- 2 months ago
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Zohra Emery
Century 21 Masters
As long as your friend the realtor fullfills her due diligence and contractual agreement as specified by the code of ethics and the board of realtors, there will be no harm in hiring her to represent you.
- 5 months ago
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