The word that decides this, Blair, is procuring cause, and none of the fourteen answers above have used it. It is worth knowing because it is the standard by which a commission dispute actually gets resolved. Procuring cause asks a simple question: whose efforts produced this sale? An agent who showed you three houses, none of which is the house you are now buying, generally has a weak procuring cause claim on a property that came to you unsolicited from a friend. That does not make it automatic, but it is the frame, and it is a much better place to start than "am I stuck." To your actual questions. Yes, you are still bound by the agreement while it runs. A buyer representation agreement is a contract with a term, and it does not evaporate because a better opportunity showed up. But almost everything about it is negotiable, and this specific scenario is one agents deal with regularly and usually handle gracefully. The clean solution is an exclusion amendment. You and your agent sign a short written amendment naming that specific property and stating it is excluded from the agreement. Everything else stays in place. Your agent keeps you as a client for the future, you buy the house from your friend's parents, and nobody has a dispute. Why an agent says yes to that: the alternative is a soured relationship, an argument they would probably lose on procuring cause, and zero chance of your future business or your referrals. Most agents recognize that trade in about ten seconds. Ask plainly, in writing, and ask kindly. You would be surprised how often the answer is just fine. If they say no, your options step down from there. You can ask to terminate the agreement entirely, which many brokerages will grant. You can wait out the term if it is short. Or you can offer them something for their time on the three showings, a flat fee or a reduced commission on the transaction. That last one is often the fastest yes, and it is fair. Two things to check in the document before you have the conversation. The protection period, sometimes called the holdover. Most buyer agreements say that if you buy a property the agent introduced you to, you still owe compensation for some period after the agreement ends. This is why terminating and waiting is not always a fix. But note the word introduced. Your friend's parents' house was not introduced by your agent, which is exactly the point in your favor. Whether the agreement is exclusive and how broadly it defines the properties covered. Some are written to cover any purchase in a geographic area during the term, regardless of who found it. If yours reads that way, get the written exclusion. Do not rely on a verbal understanding. One more thing. Connecticut closings run through attorneys, and you will have one. Even with a great deal from friends of the family, have your attorney review the purchase contract. Deals between people who like each other are exactly the deals where nobody wants to seem distrustful, and that is where problems get built in. I am Zoltan Peresztegi, a real estate professional in Los Angeles and the South Bay, and I am not an attorney. I do not work Connecticut, but I am glad to help you think through the conversation, or connect you with a strong local agent through my network. Ask for the exclusion amendment in writing. That solves it nine times out of ten. Zoltan


