There is no national answer, and that is the actual answer. Who pays what is decided by your contract, and the starting point for that negotiation is local custom rather than any law. That trips people up constantly, because custom varies not just state to state but sometimes county to county. Who pays for the owner's title insurance policy is the classic example. In some places the seller always covers it, in others the buyer does, and in others it is genuinely split or negotiated every time. Neither side is being unreasonable, they are each working from what is normal where they are. So the first question to ask your agent is simply: what is customary here. Broadly, though, the shape is this. The buyer typically carries the costs of getting the loan and of taking ownership: lender and origination fees, the appraisal, credit report, title search and lender's title insurance, recording, and prepaids, meaning the first year of homeowners insurance plus several months of taxes and insurance to fund the escrow account. The seller typically carries the costs of transferring the property and of selling it: the real estate commission, transfer taxes or documentary stamps where they apply, their loan payoff, prorated property taxes up to closing, and often the owner's title policy depending on local custom. Now the parts that are actually negotiable in the offer, which is where this gets useful. Seller concessions. A buyer can ask the seller to contribute toward the buyer's closing costs, and it is very common, especially for first-time buyers who have the down payment but are thin on cash after it. Important limit: how much a seller may contribute is capped, and the cap differs by loan program and by your down payment. Ask your lender for your specific number before you write it into an offer, because exceeding it does not get you extra help, it just gets the excess disallowed. VA loans have their own rules, and nobody has mentioned them here. There are certain fees a veteran buyer is not permitted to be charged. In practice those land on the seller or the lender instead. If you are using a VA loan, tell your agent early so the offer is structured properly, and if you are a seller receiving a VA offer, have your agent explain what you are agreeing to. Two practical notes. Buyers: get a Loan Estimate. It is a standardized federal form listing every fee by name, and it is the only reliable way to compare lenders. Sellers: ask for a net sheet before you accept an offer. A higher price with a large concession request can net you less than a lower price without one, and the only way to see that is to run both. This question is from 2021. The biggest change since is that buyer agent compensation is now negotiated deal by deal rather than published in the MLS, so who pays that is very much part of this conversation now in a way it was not then. I am a real estate professional, not a lender or an attorney. I work in Los Angeles and the South Bay, and I am glad to help you find a good agent wherever you are. Zoltan Peresztegi, Los Angeles and South Bay real estate professional


