Answers by Bess Blacquiere

Hello! This is always a tricky situation. I am glad to hear you asking :) First, it’ is so completely reasonable to want experience on your side when selling your home. That’s a big financial decision, and it’s okay to prioritize that. At the same time, it makes sense wanting to use your sister-in-law and avoid any awkwardness. It sounds like it is not that you don't want to support your sister-in-law, but rather just want to make sure you are hiring experience, so you get the best representation possible. One option could be to bring both together. If your sister-in-law is working within a brokerage, you might ask if there’s a more seasoned agent she could partner with. You could say something like: “I really want to support you, and I’m so excited for you. At the same time, since this is such a big sale for us, I’d feel more comfortable having someone with more experience involved. Would you be open to partnering with a more seasoned agent in your office so we can have both?” That way, she’s included, gaining experience, and you have the added confidence of a seasoned professional. Another option—if you decide you’d prefer to work with a different agent—is to still support her through a referral. Many agents refer business to one another and are able to receive a referral fee (often 25–30%), which allows you to support her while working with someone you feel most comfortable with. While it is hard to talk about these types of situations with people, because we aren't here to hurt feelings, Honesty is your best path. I do see this as a wonderful opportunity for you to support someone starting a new career, and at the same time take care of your concerns and needs throughout the sale. Also, you would have a team, which is wonderful in the process, too. It’s a tough and very thoughtful question, and the fact that you’re considering both the relationship and the outcome says a lot! With more exploration, I think you could have it! :)